We are not self-made. Let me say that again; we are NOT self-made. We are all a result, or rather a product of out imaginations; a product of what we individually know to be true. You could have a room full of 100 people listening to the same keynote speaker and each one of those people will have different takeaways and resonate with different portions of the speech. Sure, there are always common relatable themes, but based on experience — to each their own.
You can be whoever you want to be, remember that. We create ourselves.